"We are having an inane discussion about jogging trousers, of all things. Some of the ASN kids can't manage buttons or zips, and/or have frequent accidents, and so need to wear jogging trousers. Now that they are merged, they have to abide by the "standard" uniform, which does not include jogging trousers. I asked why the standard uniform is not jogging trousers to begin with. That would put all the kids on equal footing and not single anyone out. Because, as one parent put it: "they don't look smart." Exactly, I said to her. The ASN kids don't look smart is the underlying belief, and we are not about to be brought down by them. I find this kind of discussion exciting and worth having, whether in the church or the school system."
First, this is an example of what is happening under the surface in any merge: it is rarely two equal groups blending together equally. It is often one larger group allowing/absorbing another smaller (not necessarily in size) group into itself. I understand this, and yet to pretend that kids with special needs are automatically included or on similar footing just because you say it is absurd. Disability is absolutely opposed to the way our society is set up. It brings people down, to be honest, and nobody wants to be brought down. I'm not being ugly: when our society is set up for people who have motor-neural difficulties, and problems communicating, and behavioural issues, and low muscle tone, etc., and the rest of the population has to fit into THAT mold, then we're talking.
Second, I want to be reminded of what my idols are. More specifically: I can easily get caught up "advocating" for Adam in quite good ways, and they become my identity. At the end of the day this is God's story, and Adam is very much a part of it, in all that he is and is not. I can raise my fist and proclaim the "truth" as much as I want, but, as St Paul reminds me, if I do not have love it is all in vain.
If God has called me to be a whisk, then so be it. But may I have the grace to love everyone I am "whisking" and resist the temptation to thump my fist. For in doing so I drown out His voice.